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rate the remembrance of all present toils and sorrows. Care and labour is necessary in training up a family; but no other cares are rewarded with so rich a recompense. No other labours insure such permanent and real enjoyment." Again, I cannot but advise every young mother attentively to peruse " The Mother at Home."
Some well-disposed and truly Christian characters, unfortunately, by their outward manner, conversation, and appearance, frequently impress the young with the idea that the innocent laugh, the bounding step, the gaiety of thought and expression, are all incompatible with true religion. They must mortify the flesh—their thoughts should be ever on their sins; and that a long solemn face is a necessary index to the feelings of the heart. Although I respect and admire the principle which moves them to mourn for their transgressions, I cannot believe it is this outward result which our Saviour wished should arise from his doctrine—he condemns the appearance of seeking man's applause, like "the hypocrites of a sad countenance; for they disfigure their faces." The man who mortifies his flesh; that is,—refrains from indulging in those sins of which the body more particularly partakes, such as intemperance, excesses of any kind, and who also curbs the passions of a wilful spirit, and does so because it is his Christian duty; and, on the same principle, "does unto others what he would they should do unto him;" such an one, if he believes his Saviour's words, ought not to wear the semblance of one who serves a hard task-master. The tone of society in India, as in all other places, is assuming a more rational character than in former days, when persons were obliged to adopt either the manners of the severe ascetic, or the gay and demoralizing customs of the mere worldling.
If you become the wife of a civilian, you, of course, will not be exposed to the numerous privations and worldly vexations that attend the marching officer's lady. But, in either case, you will find some difficulty in bringing the establishment of the one or the other into anything like economical habits, for poor bachelors are in general woefully preyed upon; and, in nine cases out of ten, the mistress of the house no sooner shews her determination of keeping her own accounts, and ordering her own servants, than the sirdar, the headkhaunsamah, and two or three others of the higher servants, find their "vocation gone," and quickly look out for some other victim in the shape of a bachelor. In marching, the lady rides either on horseback or in a palanquin, the former I should recommend—the fine fresh cool breezes of the morning air will, together with the healthy exercise of riding, give you a wholesome appetite for your breakfast, and enable you to bear the heat of the day with greater comfort. You should take saddle and bridles out with you.
Every lady would find it very much to her advantage, if, before she left England, she took a few lessons in the art of dress-making; many an half-hour which is now wasted, might be employed in giving an elegant appearance to the commonest material.
Taste in dress is a criterion by which ladies are often judged; although often erroneous, yet an elegant simplicity certainly gives one the idea that the mind is more likely to be refined than when the body is adorned by garments, which, though of costly material, are of an outre make, or unbecoming in their colours; besides which, the poor man's wife will find it much more economical to cut out her own and her children's dresses, than to give the stuff to be cut up by hired tailors. In many of the stations a ball or dinner-dress of the richer stuffs may never be required; the friendly footing of the few residents, make these evening meetings like a family party, where comfort is more attended to than fine dresses. Musical instruments of the larger kind, such as pianos and harps, are out of the question for officers' wives, unless they or their husbands are passionately fond of music. If you do take out an instrument, I should strongly advise those for which Messrs. Duff and Hodgson, of Oxfordstreet and Berners-street, have lately taken out a patent; the expense is not greater than the others, but the principle on which they are made is so applicable to warm climates, that there appears; much greater chance of their standing the hoi weather than any other kind. By all means qualify yourself to tune your piano; if you cannot do so, you will frequently have to deplore your ignorance in this particular. By attention to a good teacher, you might accomplish the art in a month or six weeks. The guitar is a portable, and, at the same time, a delightful instrument as an accompaniment to the voice—lessons on it, if the lady has a voice, I should certainly recommend. You should take out a treble set of strings, and have a thick-quilted bag, made large enough to cover case and all. New music you can have sent to you half-yearly, at a very trifling cost.
A select library of the diamond print will be found very useful; books printed in large type take up too much room, and are so heavy that a military man would grumble at the additional expense a heavy box of books would entail. The great art is in the selection. Ask some one, on whose opinion you can rely, to point out such as he or she would recommend, and do not load yourself with the trashy novels of the day, which, when read, are thrown aside, and afford no further pleasure or instruction, on which the mind can dwell. History, Travels, Biography, and a fair proportion of more serious reading, you will never regret purchasing. All works relating to India, its society, &c., should be perused by every lady who does not wish to be totally ignorant of the land of her sojourn. Much of the history of the East partakes of the character of romance, and is both amusing and instructive.
It is an unfortunate circumstance that children cannot, without a great risk to their health, remain a longer period than they generally do under their parents' roof in India, setting aside the grief and sorrow a parent must necessarily experience in parting for so many years from a beloved child, the expenses attendant on the voyage to Europe, education, &c. &c., are matters of no small consideration to a gentleman having a large family.
Ladies proceeding to, or arriving from, India, will meet with every attention and assistance in forwarding their views, by applying to me at the Indian Army and Colonial Agency, 26, SuffolkStreet, Pali-Mall, where I shall be happy to give them every information required. Their friends, by a yearly subscription of ten shillings paid in advance, can, through this agency, have all thenletters transmitted to them, via Marseilles or Falmouth; every letter is registered and stamped before posted—the same with small parcels, &c.; by which means, the date of dispatch and mode of conveyance can, at any time, be ascertained. The postage accounts are sent in quarterly. Vide Appendix, under head of " Indian Army Agency."