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it be your boast in after-life, that not one penny of it was wrung from the oppressed,—the widow, —or the orphan. With respect to your passage, and conduct on board, the same remarks are as applicable in your case as in the Cadet's. Your outfit will, of course, be somewhat different. The expense he is at for military equipments, you will incur in providing a different style of dress, with many articles of comfort, which, in a military man's baggage, would be too bulky and liable to loss from frequent change of place. The objections to a married life are great, in India, even when the parties have ample means for the variety of expenses it entails; but all of them appear but as a speck in the horizon, when placed by the side of those raised against the native connection,—a connection which has religion, respectability, comfort, and social life opposed to it,—and which has no one feeling, in the first instance, congenial to it, but a disgusting sensuality. Avoid it as you would the plague-spot. If you have not the opportunity, in a few years, of returning to your native land to select a future partner for life, India can boast of a large share of beauty, accomplishments, and solid worth, in the daughters of her civil and military residents, among whom you may be fortunate enough to draw a prize in the matrimonial lottery. The drawbacks are, the frequent separations so often necessary, either by sickness of the female, or the withdrawal of your children, just at the most interesting age. But as I am not writing to advocate either marriage or celibacy, I shall not enter into the long train of arguments which both could furnish in support of each particular state; but I do most earnestly advise the young aspirant for happiness, in this world and the next, to weigh carefully the misery and consequent results arising from a native connection, before he plants a thorn in his side that never will lose its irritating power.
HINTS TO YOUNG LADIES.
Will the young of the fairer sex excuse an old married man for giving them a few hints previous to their visiting a land, which is held up as one in which the shrine of beauty receives such overwhelming adulation, that no female, possessing the slightest attraction, need for a day retain the blessings of freedom, unless she prefers it to the chance of enjoying additional pleasures in matrimonial chains. Every young female looks forward, as a natural consequence to her birth, that she shall become some day the mistress of her own home,—the willing captive of the tyrant man; but I fear every young female does not equally seize the advantages offered in early life, to fit her for the sacred and hallowed offices of wife and mother—not that I mean to insinuate, that the majority of ladies proceeding to India are careless as to such qualifications, but that the majority, who, I believe, are the daughters of our old civil and military officers, have not the same opportunities, examples, and incitements as they would have, were they more immediately brought up under the fostering and untiring watchfulness of their own parents—more particularly their own mother. In how many instances are they sent home under the care of friends, who, from sickness or a thousand other reasons, take no further notice of them than merely to see they are not illused, but who allow them to remain wholly and solely under the charge of their Portuguese or native nurse, from whom they certainly have but little chance of learning anything in morality, religion, or useful knowledge; and few people consider that it is in this early age such impressions are made, such principles imbibed, that if they do not altogether destroy, they make it much more difficult to kindle the original virtue, which, notwithstanding the dominion of evil, is still inherent in every rational being. In England they are placed at school, where they have possibly every attention paid to the improvement of their persons, their accomplishments and style; and many, but for their own good sense and strength of mind, would be like the beauteous image of the painter's phantasy, wanting the life and intellect of an eternal spirit, without which it can attract no warmer feeling than that of admiration and surprise. In returning to their parents, young females are subjected to trials, which few deem as such; but parents have much to answer for, (if by any possibility it can be avoided,) in allowing their daughters to proceed on board a ship for a voyage to India, unless under the protection of some married female or male relative.
In choosing a ship for a young lady, much ought to depend upon the known character of the captain, the arrangement of the cabins, and to the number of married parties proceeding in her. The expense will be very materially affected by two ladies occupying one cabin, which I should, in most cases, recommend, for very many reasons. She will require some more articles of cabin furniture, and have her cabin arranged with a view more to comfort than that of a gentleman's. Her conduct from the first day she puts her foot on board, will be the subject of scrutiny and remark by one or other of her fellow-passengers; and there is hardly a more trying situation a young female can be placed in, than that of being shut up for three or four months with individuals of both sexes, with not one of whom, perhaps, she has ever previously exchanged a word, and even to her chaperon she may possibly be personally a stranger. From the great number of passengers occupying the numerous cabins of an Indian vessel, of course there must be a great diversity of character and disposition; and what by some would be considered the harmless exuberance of youthful spirits, and ignorance of evil, by others might be construed into unfeminine familiarity, or natural boldness. Let not the kind or particular attention of any of your male fellow-passengers draw from you more than an ordinary acknowledgment, the same as a stranger; if you